How to free yourself (?)
Looking to break up in a relationship? I'm not being mean; I'm just trying to help. So are you one of those people? If you are, you may find this article pretty useful (or at least I hope so).
First things first, you must not and I repeat, YOU MUST NOT, TALK ABOUT YOUR BREAKUP WITH ANYBODY ELSE OTHER THAN THE PERSON. It is something crucial and very special that you tell them before anybody else. But before even thinking of telling them, you have to know what you are going to say. Have the reasons already there and make sure they are reasonable; talk it out. Also choose a good time to tell the person, you don't want to make their day worse if they are already having a sucky day.
Do it face to face, no phone, no telegram, no text (that's the worst you can do) etc. You need to be physically present and talk about it and please, oh please, avoid those old clichés like, "it’s not you it’s me; I've got too much work on; I need some space right now;" type things. Those are a big no, no, when breaking up. Why? Simply because it leaves the other person (whoever does it first) with a lot of questions. Being honest is the quickest and best way to go.
Be cool with it, like, you can express your feelings as a whole and everything, but, if you are breaking up with your partner just because of a physical trait of his/hers, or an issue with her/his family's hygiene anything superficial like that just…keep it to yourself. She/he doesn't need to know that. Also with this I shall remind you that you shouldn’t leave any doubts in your break up since this might lead to a light of hope in the other person, and you don’t want to leave them with that. Give them the freedom of an ended relationship so they can move on with their life. With this in mind, you need to deny any reuniting with that person you broke up with; think about it, that is almost like giving them hope once more. Again big no, no…
Now, once that relationship is over, take some time to yourself. Think about the experience. What did it teach you? It is mostly a reflection on oneself; take a chance to see what you’re good at, what you need to improve (because it’s not all the other person's fault, there is some blame on you for it as well) and your needs themselves. There are maybe other ways to do it, but these are the best options when/if you’re going to break up with your significant other, or at least thinking about doing it. Take these suggestions in mind and good luck (you’ll need it).
By: Andrea Rusic
Looking to break up in a relationship? I'm not being mean; I'm just trying to help. So are you one of those people? If you are, you may find this article pretty useful (or at least I hope so).
First things first, you must not and I repeat, YOU MUST NOT, TALK ABOUT YOUR BREAKUP WITH ANYBODY ELSE OTHER THAN THE PERSON. It is something crucial and very special that you tell them before anybody else. But before even thinking of telling them, you have to know what you are going to say. Have the reasons already there and make sure they are reasonable; talk it out. Also choose a good time to tell the person, you don't want to make their day worse if they are already having a sucky day.
Do it face to face, no phone, no telegram, no text (that's the worst you can do) etc. You need to be physically present and talk about it and please, oh please, avoid those old clichés like, "it’s not you it’s me; I've got too much work on; I need some space right now;" type things. Those are a big no, no, when breaking up. Why? Simply because it leaves the other person (whoever does it first) with a lot of questions. Being honest is the quickest and best way to go.
Be cool with it, like, you can express your feelings as a whole and everything, but, if you are breaking up with your partner just because of a physical trait of his/hers, or an issue with her/his family's hygiene anything superficial like that just…keep it to yourself. She/he doesn't need to know that. Also with this I shall remind you that you shouldn’t leave any doubts in your break up since this might lead to a light of hope in the other person, and you don’t want to leave them with that. Give them the freedom of an ended relationship so they can move on with their life. With this in mind, you need to deny any reuniting with that person you broke up with; think about it, that is almost like giving them hope once more. Again big no, no…
Now, once that relationship is over, take some time to yourself. Think about the experience. What did it teach you? It is mostly a reflection on oneself; take a chance to see what you’re good at, what you need to improve (because it’s not all the other person's fault, there is some blame on you for it as well) and your needs themselves. There are maybe other ways to do it, but these are the best options when/if you’re going to break up with your significant other, or at least thinking about doing it. Take these suggestions in mind and good luck (you’ll need it).
By: Andrea Rusic